I developed a big-picture vision for Ideapod.
Manipulative people won’t take responsibility for … You are absolutely correct, I thought the exact same thing while writing these words. I valued my relationships and simply wanted to be someone who adds value to the lives of others around me.This brings me to the key point I have been trying to make throughout this article.You can’t change how other people behave, even if you can see how manipulative they are being.You can change how you react to manipulative people in your life. I have done that by becoming more suspicious (a trait that I dislike in myself, but still need) and by offering new acquaintances a small something, be it money, possessions or a small amount of influence to test them out. You’ll be made to feel guilty for it.This is one of the key lessons I learned about manipulative people.
I played the victim if things went wrong.Manipulative people often have had a similar experience to me. It evolves through the way you face and overcome the challenges of life.Ideapod is here to support you in making the commitment to live your best possible life.We have a community of people coming together to live truly authentic lives.Join the Tribe. Added together, their lies make up the story they tell about the life they’re living.They’ll push you to share your plans first and will find a way to incorporate what you’ve just said into their explanation for what needs to come next.They do this because they have such a strongly-held belief that their way of thinking is superior to yours.
If you will allow me, I will use part of Wikipedia’s definition of to make my point – first step is for you to recognize the emotions you might be feeling when you talk to someone else and to use that awareness to guide your actions and protect yourself from emotional manipulators by controlling your body language, tone of voice, etc.So you’re probably thinking – this is easier said than done.
4. If you want to learn how to manipulate a manipulator, to watch over their dealings and foil them, make sure you do not become one in the process. Another word for it is reconnaissance.My friend Robert’s eyes will pop out of their orbits for telling you this (yes. This has also happened to me a lot of times. What that means is that they have a few strategies that they use over and over again to gain the upper hand. But there will be something in their past that gives them justification for thinking they’re better than others. […]It is tended to be recommended to not try it because we are very good at studying you, whereas you are less inclined to be as good at studying us.”If you, however, decide to go on with it, make sure the possibility of failure is acceptable to you.
I know, I’m giving strangers weapons to use against me), but this strategy works with me more often than not.
*Flattery - compliment other to "butter them up" and get them in good mood for requests.
All a manipulator need do is a simple two-step process: Give you what you crave, and then Master manipulators are also very persuasive and use their skills to change the way you see certain things.They suffer and you are the knight or dame ( I had to google the feminine equivalent for knight) on a white horse that comes to their timely rescue.There is a lot more to be written on this single manipulator tactic and we will do it shortly. It’s usually your fault, not theirs. Observe, learn and test your conclusions, ever so subtly as to not disturb their suspicions.A little bit of Latin is a good and fancy way to end an article.
Instead, you need to see that manipulative people are providing you with an opportunity to stand up for yourself.Here are three steps I suggest you undertake to stand up for yourself in the face of manipulative behaviors.I shared the 10 classic traits of manipulative people above so you can recognize manipulative behaviors to look out for.The point isn’t to label people in your life as “manipulative”. Knowingly or unknowingly, it does make a difference whether the manipulation process is a conscious one or not and if there is a well laid out plan behind it or not.It is the first step in their process and they use it to discover your strengths, weaknesses, what you admire, what you abhor, what you fear and what you desire with all your heart. They might offer words of sympathy and support to divert you from their ulterior motives.
I focused people’s attention on my vision rather than on my actions.
Those jerks at the office are envious of your success and how that made the boss pay close attention to your ideas. However, manipulative people underhandedly try to influence someone to reach their ulterior motive.