He was in love with me, not my body, not an idea of me, just me. You loved a dynamic i.e the way she made you feel, made you smile, how she gets you. You love the way (s)he makes you feel, how (s)he laughs, how (s)he always seems to get you, even at your worst. Love transcends being in love. To be fall in love on the other hand can be different. But here’s the thing, if a freak EMP detonates and wipes every movie from every database everywhere, all books spontaneously combust because of a reaction between the air and their pages and all cows suddenly stop producing milk (Breast milk doesn’t count), I would be sad for a while, but afterwards, I’d dust off my shoulders and keep on living, What people don’t know is that loving, by nature, is conditional. However you can not always be in love with someone because of our human nature (humans can be annoying) but once you truly love someone it is an everlasting feeling that situations, condtions or circumstances can’t change. I have read all these comments. I also knew that of my Ex’s, I was only in love with one, the rest, I loved but I still didn’t have the words to describe this difference that was as clear as watching a 1080p video on a 17” laptop.Then I met her and it hit me harder than the wrecking ball that hit Miley.Allow me to use an example to differentiate between ‘loving’ and ‘being in love’.I love reading novels, I love watching high-school drama/romance movies like ‘A Cinderella Story’, I f**king love milk! What does that mean? And for a while, I was convinced I had it all figured out. I learnt really early that love is a decision, an unconditional commitment to love and to have and to hold in good times and in bad times. For me, the difference has always been black and white.Even though her gut warns her to stay home, a work assignment forces Ari to visit the island—and it’s even more dangerous than she ever could have imagined. “THE WAY OR HOW” that’s a dynamic and it changes, Now it’s us change it and say, you loved her because she made you smile, because she made you laugh, because she got you, what then happens when she upsets you, or annoys the shit out of you.There is a difference between loving the dynamic of a relationship and loving the person giving off those dynamics, because dynamics changes, the person doesn’t.Falling in love leads to loving someone, and the latter transcends the former because you can fall out of love but when you really love someone, you never stop loving that person because it would require you to stop loving a part of yourself.First time This hit me in the face was in TVD, when Rebecca held Stefan and Elena hostage and compelled Elena to say how she felt about Stefan, and she said: “I Love Stefan but I’m not in love with him”, That was I realized that they were distinct concepts.Like i said, great post, just a switch up in concepts,Unless you want to tell me that God didn’t love the world, that he is in love with the world insteadI agree with Nosa here.
To me, they were synonymous. Because you don’t love something about the person but you are in love with the person himself/herself.
But as I grew up, I realized that there was a difference.
No. One is real while the other isn’t. Now, am I in love with broccoli? I love cookies, I love the color blue and broccoli. The line that separates the two is thinner than the veil that covers the bride enroute the alter. (SOMEONE BACK ME UP)First off, I don’t like or agree with your use of inanimate objects in your analogy, because books don’t evolve, Milk never tastes different. That is why the bible says “For God so loved the world…….”, “while we were yet sinners Christ died for us”. Nothing I say here would be enough to make you know me but my writeups, like books, would be my recommendations and should tell you enough about me. Btw Nosa, you should update your blog often Love your writing.Well I understand what you mean, but honestly I think everyone has a different conception of being in love and loving someone I feel like when’s you love someone you won’t just wipe it off if they’ve disappeared ???? For the longest time, I couldn’t tell the difference between “I love you” and “I’m in love with you”. To be in love with another human being is to mean more than, “hey, I appreciate your existence.” — that’s love.To be in love with broccoli is to not care about the changing conditions (too salty, under-cooked, mixed with snow peas) — I shall indulge anyway because I would rather have burnt broccoli than perfectly cooked spinach. Its like an obsession; a state of complete oblivion to everything but that one person. To me, they were synonymous.